Finding Your Biological Parents
Posted on August 2, 2007
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Were you an adopted child? Maybe you’re an adoptive parent? Roughly 2% of Americans, about 6 million people, are adoptees. When you factor in biological parents, adoptive parents, and siblings, the stats show that 1 in 8 Americans are directly touched by adoption. Research has shown that a majority of these adoptees and birth parents have attempted to find the people who might be their parents or children. There are many different reasons one might do people searches for their birth parents, including medical history, ethnicity, or just a desire to know a parent. However, finding people, especially a relative, is guaranteed to be a difficult and emotional journey.
The first step in finding someone who might be your birth parent is to discover his or her name - a task that can be problematic if you don’t have this key information. The best place to turn for this material would be your adoptive parents. Chances are they retained all the records, which will make it easy to find people who have more comprehensive information. You’ll need to contact the hospital in which you were born, and find people who can help you at the adoption agency from whom your parents found you. Take notes on all the clues and people you can find to help you in the process. You will want to gather together all the documents you can find, and ask your adoptive parents or find someone who is an appropriate government official for documents such as an amended birth certificate, petition for adoption, and the final decree of adoption.
Find people, at the Agency or the State that handled your adoption, who can help you, obtain your non-identifying information. The amount of information you find will vary depending upon the details that were recorded at the time of the birth and adoption. With this info you can find people involved in the adoption and their details, such as medical history, ethnicity, and level of education, professional achievement, and religion. You might even be able to find out the reasons for adoption.
It can also be to your benefit to join an adoption support group or mailing list. This is a great way to find people in your same situation that can provide emotional support as well as practical advice. Finding people in a similar situation can be a relief in some ways. People find that emotional support is more helpful than actual information, because the whole situation can be so intense. Once you’ve accurately identified the name of the person you are trying to find, whether it be a birth parent or adoptee, your adoption search can be conducted in the same way any other people search would. Searching for people when you already have the name is very quick and easy. People search engines are designed to pull up contact info in seconds. Once you have found the contact information, you are ready to find a person who will change your life.
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I’m looking for my birth mother. Thanks for all the info you provided here to help me find her.
I used PrivateEye.com to find my biological father. I wish I would have known about people search engines earlier! I wouldn’t have waited until I was 40 to track him down.
Hello my name is Jennifer Ann. I am searching for my birth parents. I have two other siblings, Robert Anthony and Jamie Lee. Robert(the oldest) was born Dec. 25th, 1978 in Arizona, Jamie(middle) was born May 27th, 1980 in New Mexico. I(youngest) was born Feb. 14th, 1983 in Ft. Worth, TX. Our birth last name was NASH. I do not know our parents first names. But, I want to let them know that I love them, miss them and forgive them. Even though I have never known them. If anyone can help please email me at jen4miles@yahoo.com
Jennifer
Hi Jennifer I am your Baby sister I want to meet you so bad.My Parents Had pictures of you and you look beautiful.I want to meet you were can we meeet.
love,Heather
Hello my name is tamara and Im trying very hard to help a friend find there adopted parents. The’re lost and dont know where to turn. 37yrs old born in Ny and adopted parents or no help. everytime my friend would ask for the name they would never tell him. Finally they burned the records so he will never no how crul is that. And they were trouble parents. I would hate for another year to pass and he is lost maybe there looking him also maybe not. At least he can have some kind of closer. If anyone can tell me where i can start or what i can do next to look just some direction to ease his pain. everyone desires to feel that they are loved and belong . If you can help please email thanks a freind losted
Hi my name is amanda faith latham. biological last name is way. im looking for my mom. her first name is Misty. and im told she lives in florida. my sister was adopted with me stella… and i really just want to know who my mom is and im really sorry about all the things she went through ive always been curious about her. if you know anything i can do please let me know
My wife and I adopted our oldest son name Andre J. Weldon in March 1986. Andre was born on August 31, 1985 in Long Beach, Ca at Long Beach Memorial Hospital. He would like to meet his biological parents now. I would love for my son to find and meet his biological parents.
hi my name is joseph thurston i was adopted at the bradford county court house and im looking for my biological parents. i have no information my birth date is 3/18/65 if someone out there knows some information i would really like too hear from you thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!
hello my name is richard carl kesler jr. i was born on July 20,1967. I was born in Greenville North Carolina at Greenville Memorial Hospital, the doctor was named David E. Love.I know this is not to go on but this is all that i know. I would love to hear from someone that can possibly help me in my search.Thank you !!!!!!!!!
well. im 15 years old. and i was adopted at birth and i want to know were my real parents are. i LOVE the family im with now they have had me since birth and i DNT wNT TO LIVE WITH MY BIOLOGICAL PARENTS…BUT I WANT TO KNOW WHAT HAPPENED TO THEM..OR IF THEY ARE STILL ALIVE..OR IF THEY HAVE A HISTORY OF MEDICAL ISSUES? CAN ANYONE HELP ME WITH LIKE A WEBSITE OR SOMETHING..ONLY ISSUE IS I HAVENT TOLE MY FAMILY IM WITH NOW ABOUT THIS
hi my name is holly,iwas born in logan ,ohio in 1980 my sisters name is lisa she was born in 1983 we were adopted together in florida in either 84 or 85 despertly trying to find biological family …my soul does not feel complete …feel like im missing a part of myself..
hi my name is Miriah and i am trying to find my mother paula j mayo she is 39 and married i do miss her so much but just dont know what to du i have tryed everything to get her back my mom was a drugy and an alcoholic and she left me places but now i am older and i think now is the time to tell her how i really feel if only mom adopted parents would let me but they wont so i a venting out to you guys out there to please help me find my mother i am 12 years old so what i have big dreams and one of them is to find my mother please help me